Let me paint a picture for you. You’re a dashing, studly, 26 year old man. It’s the holidays, and you’re heading back to your hometown to see your family. The entire family comes over, just like when you were a kid. You haven’t seen some of these people since you were ten years old; and you’re pretty sure your cousin’s new girlfriend hates everything about your family. There are couples all over the house. Some couples are newlyweds, some are engaged and some are seriously dating. There are also a few new couples hiding at a corner table. You know, those scared shitless couples worried about what everyone thinks of their relationship.
Then there’s you. You’re entering the realm of your late twenties and coming home for the holidays, single. All the women in your family ask why you don’t have a girlfriend. They all also want to know if you’re ever getting married. Oh, and when you do get married; where will it take place? Everyone acts as if there’s something wrong with you just because you’re single. In fact, they all act as if it’s a terrible thing. Is being single in your twenties really such a bad thing? The simple answer to this is, not if you enjoy being awesome.
Why do people consider being single a bad thing? I have nothing bad to say about relationships. If you are with someone who makes you happy, then that’s awesome for you. But if you haven’t found that person yet, being single isn’t a bad alternative. Actually, I would argue that being single is the better option when you’re in your twenties. Pay attention, you’re about to be taught a life lesson; for free.
To begin, when you’re in your twenties, you should be experiencing life on your own terms.
This means that other than work, you don’t need to be on a schedule. How many awesome nights have you had that started with a random phone call? I’m sure there are plenty. This might be the only time in your life that you can do whatever you want, when you want to do it. No planning, no obligations, and hopefully a whole lot of one-night stands.
Moving on, this is your early adulthood. This is the time you grow the most as a person. You move out of your parents house, you pay your own bills, you lose the benefit of a dishwasher; and then you learn how to fold your own laundry. It’s also the time you really need to focus on yourself and what you want to accomplish in life. If you don’t take care of yourself, who’s going to be there to take care of you? You also can’t take care of someone else until you take care of yourself, first. It’s your opportunity to secure your career and your future. More importantly, it’s the only time in your life where you’ll be able to focus solely on yourself.
When you combine the experiences with building a career, it adds up to you meeting some awesome people. Some of these awesome people want to help you succeed. Suddenly, you’ve built a great network of friends and colleagues. At some point this network will pay off. Someone you meet may think so highly of you that they give you an opportunity at a job you always wanted. If you’re single, you have the ability to take the chance. That way, if you fail, you’re not dragging anybody else down with you. Life will always be about who you know. You just need to make sure you know what you’re doing once you get in the door. And if for some reason the chance you take doesn’t work out; you’re still young enough to start all over.
It’s not that you can’t do these things while you’re in a relationship. It’s just that being in a relationship doesn’t allow you to take as many chances on yourself. Your twenties are the most important time of your life. These years set up the rest of your life. These are the years where you can take risks. You don’t have to think about another person while trying to get your life in order. That’s why being single in your twenties isn’t a bad thing. Because you can invest in yourself and figure out who you are. You’ll have plenty of time to meet the right person. And you’ll be way more of a catch when you have a baller ass apartment and money to spend on them.
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