Creating Your Own Destiny: 6 Everyday Things You Should Be Doing


I try to make sense of things. Which is why, I guess, I believe in destiny. There must be a reason that I am as I am. There must be. - Robin Williams, Bicentennial Man.

I believe in destiny. There must be a reason I am what I am and you are who you are. That every mistake or triumph has happened. I believe that you do create your own destiny and that each thing that happens in life, happens because it is leading you to your next success. Just because you can’t see your destiny doesn’t mean it’s not there.

I don’t know about any of you, but everyday I am changing. From the type of boys I like, the things I eat, to who I want to be. I am forever changing because without change, you will never move forward with life. Good and bad, everything that happens to you makes an impact on who you are becoming, whom you are destined to be.

I saw that quote from Robin Williams and it led me to start thinking about destiny. It’s interesting that this was a quote by him. Williams decided his destiny, and whether I believe it is right or wrong, doesn’t change the fact that he is gone.

There are many actions people make in life that by doing so, have decided others peoples’ destiny. Drugs, violence, even driving to fast have taken so many people away from us. But it is those people who decide to do those things which ultimately decided their destiny. I’m not saying that things happen that are out of our control, but for many things, we decide who we become by doing the things we choose to do.

When your life is changing, remind yourself of these things to do that will get you the things that you want.


Stay humble.

Stay loyal to yourself and know that everyone deserves forgiveness as well as respect. Everyday is leading up to the person you are supposed to be, that you want to be. Never let anything come in the way of that.


Work hard and keep focus.

Keeping focus is probably the hardest thing for me to do. Not sure if it is my A.D.D. or because I tend to get lazy, either way- when I don’t focus on the things that will improve me, I usually end up doing things that will hold me back. Make a calendar and put blocks for the things that you need to do. Such as work, gym, appointments, etc. Stick to those and during that time put things away that will distract you. Prioritizing your time will keep you on the right path.


Never allow yourself to be comfortable.

The problem with just settling is we are usually greater than that. But we settle because we are comfortable. Being comfortable in a healthy relationship for example is good, but a healthy relationship means that everyday you are living, growing, learning and improving. When you settle in something that you are not happy with, but it is just getting you by, you will never be able to truly reach your maximum potential.


Be pragmatic and be honest.

Dreams are an amazing thing to have, but when you are 35 and you dream to be in the NBA, the chances of that are getting more slim by the day. Be honest with yourself and be sensible. When you are not, defeat will be a common denominator and you will never be satisfied. Try to reach realistic goals and make a plan of action for these.


Value those around you who lift you up.

You would never be able to get through life without people who want you to do well. Stick to these people and cherish them. They will get you through the bad and be by your side for the good.


Realize that everything that happens is a lesson as well as a blessing.

Everyday you are blessed because you are alive. No matter what, good or bad- you are alive. Learn a lesson from everything and anything that happens in your life and improve yourself if it is bad and keep going if it is good. It won’t stop just because you are not ready, so grab life by the balls and figure out what works.


Remember, if you don’t create your own destiny, someone or something else will. While you live life as a follower, others are out there creating their own life as they envision it. You are the creator of your own destiny, so take back your thoughts and your life before it’s too late.



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